Author’s Note: No one experience is the same. This is my story.
I first knew I was attracted to more than just boys at age 14 – my freshman year of high school. Her name was Lauren.
My upbringing chalked this up to a product of my environment (I attended an all-girls high school). I witnessed first hand the repercussions of public displays of affection with anyone other than the opposite sex by Catholic educators and authority figures.
So, while I did not outwardly dismiss those around me who chose to identify outside the perceived heterosexual norm, I dismissed my own feelings of attraction towards those assigned female at birth as fleeting, passing, and inauthentic to who I thought I was (or who I thought I was meant to be).
I leaned in heavily towards my heterosexual identity, ensuring those around me that even with my reserved, private nature, I was very much attracted to men. My romantic interests in movies, books, television, and even my own writing further solidified this identity.
I didn’t question my sexuality again for another 13 years.
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